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Newsletter November 2014
Over the last 22 years I have been helping golfers and other athletes learn how to perform at their peak performance levels through an understanding and awareness of Self. The mental game of golf is not about being stronger mentally, but is about changing your beliefs of lack and limitation that were ingrained in you as a child from someone else’s fearful beliefs and values. When you have the self-esteem to believe in yourself and your abilities there is no struggle and you can just allow yourself to play “in the zone.”
As the twig is bent, so grows the tree
As we move into the holiday seasons of uplifting spiritual energy, it is a good time to look at your earliest years of life that define much of who you are today and how those sabotaging beliefs are surfacing now in your adult performances.
If you had caring parents, as a helpless infant you were constantly paid attention to in a loving adored way. As you began to move about in your first year, your parents began to treat you differently. They were aware of the many dangers that could befall a toddler like falling down the stairs or running out into the street. Throughout your childhood years, you were then told over and over again what you could not do. In truth you were told this many more times than what you could do. So around the age of two, you began to say NO willfully.
By the time you were five years old, you were told negatives or NO, 30,000 times. By the time you are 13 years old, you are told negatives or NO 100,000 times. You grew up in an environmentally negative society. You heard the word bad more often than good. You were told you were wrong more times than you were told you were right. You were criticized more times than you were praised. You were told not to do something more times than you were told what to do.
Your parents told you the lies of Santa Claus (actually created by Macy’s Department Store), the Easter bunny, the tooth fairy, and that you were brought by the stork. And of course you believed them because they were your parents and you believed your parents would not lie to you.
Negative programming for athletics
As a child and teen-ager you were warned hundreds/thousands of times by your parents and other authority figures of the dangers in physical activities that included running, catching, throwing, lifting, tugging, kicking, twisting, turning, pushing, pulling, jumping, climbing, rolling, swinging, hanging, and sliding. What you were told was that you would hurt yourself by breaking an arm or a leg, tripping, banging your head, scraping your knee, or just bruising yourself. These fear messages became lodged in your subconscious mind which takes in these messages literally and promotes the injuries your parents were trying to avoid.
If on the other hand if you were told repeatedly as a child that you are athletic and well coordinated, have a good golf swing and that you will be a great golfer, you would believe it and follow this dream. A good example of this kind of loving conditioning is Jack Nicklaus who was trained to believe in himself by his parents and his golf pro. How else could he play like a champion when the galleries were shouting a derogatory “Fat Jack” at him? He transformed his image into “The Golden Bear” with his winning performances. His thinking is always positive and he has to strain to think of anything negative when the press asks him about missed shots.
What will they think of me?
Golfers put the biggest pressure on themselves by worrying about how they will look to others. On the pro level, the media is constantly judging by pointing out mistakes and failures to execute perfection.
Self-esteem is the issue. Children learn early on that when a parent, teacher or trusted authority figure says you do something wrong, you need to be punished because you are bad. Hearing these messages over and over, they are programmed into your subconscious mind and take on the role of the authority figures even after they are gone. When you are standing over the golf ball and one of these self-doubting thoughts surfaces, your self-sabotage takes over and punishes you with a missed shot.
I think it is time to turn the energy on the golf course back into a safe, fun playground for all ages. I for one would like to see it as a healthy place to go for fun, exercise, challenge and a spiritual experience. That is why I began giving workshops and it is my sole purpose now. I would like everyone to experience their higher Self by playing golf “in the zone” where it is the most fun and scores are the lowest. To have this experience it begins with having a safe place within.
Play “in the zone” with Joan
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